What is Ghosting?

In today’s world, where people use online dating and fast communication, the term “ghosting” has become very common. But what does it really mean, and why does it feel so hurtful when it happens?

Defining Ghosting

Ghosting means suddenly stopping all communication without any warning. It can happen in dating, friendships, or even at work, but it’s most often talked about in the context of romantic relationships.

Usually, ghosting looks like this:

• Not replying to messages

• Not answering calls or social media messages

• Just disappearing with no explanation or closure... the person basically vanishes like a ghost.

Why People Ghost

Even though ghosting can feel really mean, the reasons people do it are usually about them, not you.

Some common reasons are:

• They don’t want to have an uncomfortable conversation.

• They’re worried about hurting your feelings and think disappearing is easier.

• They’re not emotionally ready to be close or open up.

• They’re busy or their priorities have changed, and they don’t want to explain.

The Impact of Being Ghosted

When someone ghosts you, it can make you feel many things, like:

• Confused and doubting yourself - did I do something wrong?

• Heartbroken or rejected - why wasn’t I worth an explanation?

• Angry or frustrated - I deserve to be told the truth, not just silence.

• Anxious about future relationships - can I trust people not to leave me again?

Since ghosting gives no closure, it makes it hard to move on without answers.

How to Cope with Ghosting

If you’ve been ghosted, remember it’s not about you - it’s about how the other person communicates.

Here’s how to deal with it:

• Let yourself feel whatever you’re feeling - it’s okay to be upset or disappointed.

• Don’t overthink it - their silence doesn’t say anything about your worth.

• Be kind to yourself - treat yourself the way you would a friend in the same situation.

• Create your own closure - decide how you want to move forward without waiting for them.

• Talk to someone you trust - share your feelings with friends or a counsellor to help process what happened.

Final Thoughts

Ghosting is a new way of rejecting someone, but the silence can make it harder to deal with than if someone just said what they meant.

Although it hurts, it also sends an important message... it shows how that person deals with conflict, communication, and responsibility.

Healthy relationships are built on respect, honesty, and openness. If someone disappears without explaining, it shows they might not be the right person for the kind of relationship you deserve.